Tool Shed Review #2 - Using a Strap On
If like me, you suffer from erectile dysfunction issues, you’re probably wondering what your options are for giving good penetrative sex to your partner.
Well, amazingly, there are many. Not countless (as I have counted most of them), but enough to keep you and your partner very contented, and if my partner is happy, then I am very happy.
Here is one alternative that is generally not found in the rehabilitation treatment brochures found in the Urologists waiting room. The humble “Strap On”.
Above: Zoro 5.5” Strap On
On my first sex toy shopping trip following my robotic prostate surgery, I did purchase a penis pump as recommended by my Urologist. But, knowing that Pedro was going to be on sick leave for up to 12 months and that I did want to continue having sex with my partner, I also invested in a strap on as shown above.
His name is Zoro.
I know that the photos do not clearly show a male torso wearing the appendage, but I can assure you it has been designed for the wearer to be a woman or a man.
If you are wondering how it fits you, my flaccid friend, Pedro and scrotum, fit snuggly through the opening below the black phallus.
Once I’ve slipped the harness on like a pair of undies, and rearranged my bits through the opening, I am ready for action.
With the strap on there are no boundaries to sexual positions or even the duration - Zoro does not need Viagra!
Sure, it feels different as my body is doing all the physical gyrations that I did before the operation, but now there is a feeling of disconnection. I can feel Zoro sliding in and out, but Pedro is feeling none of this. This feeling of disconnection was soon overcome (see tips below) and everyone was happy
When using Zoro, it is great to see and hear my partner enjoying the feeling of penetration that has been missing since the operation.
Even as Pedro’s recovery progressed and I didn’t necessarily need the strap on, I still use it. Sort of like a tag team effort. The options are numerous and only limited by your imagination.
Strap ons come in all different configurations, so do your research. Zoro is one piece molded rubber with an elasticised harness. It has an internal recess for inserting a bullet vibrator to add more zest to the action and it’s super easy to wash.
The alternative to Zoro is a wearable harness complete with a holding ring for an interchangeable dildo. The advantage here is the dildo can be any size or shape.
Above: Harness and Interchangeable Dildos
Here are some of the reasons that I and my partner, enjoy using a strap on.
I am a giver. I enjoy providing sexual pleasure to my partner first and my needs are secondary. So the strap on allows me to give without the anxiety of not generating or maintaining an erection.
With my current rehab state of having a semi hard erection, I have a fear of Pedro falling out during intercourse, and to avoid that I have control the thrusts and and depth of strokes. With a strap on, this fear is no existent, as Zoro stays erect forever and I can control the depth and force of the penetration.
Zoro allows for more energetic sexual activities and depending on my partner's needs, I can use more force and sexual energy to thrust deep and hard to generate audible demands from my partner to “don’t stop!”
In the “doggy” position, I get to hold onto my partners hips and undertake long thrusting strokes while she reaches under and strokes my penis. The feeling of thrusting and being stoked generates amazing pre-surgery memories which results in orgasms for both parties.
In an alternate position, if I am lying down on my back, my partner can mount and insert Zoro and it is her that can control the depth and force required to achieve her orgasm. Combined with the vibrator inserted within the strap on, or the use of a vibrating cock ring, the combinations are numerous and enjoyable.
You will not feel any lesser of a man by wearing a strap on. For me, the sound of my partner saying, “don’t stop, please don’t stop” when using a strap on, makes me forget I ever had cancer!