9. Oh, Excuse me whilst I pump

Chapter 9 – How to successfully use a penis pump and not lose the "moment"

This is the ninth article in a series of dating articles that I have written following my prostate removal surgery. The aim of the articles is to give you an insight on what steps that I took regain my mojo following the surgery. I hope that they help you.

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Here is a short story to share with men who use a penis pump.

Ever since I started using my pump prior to sex, I had this fear that my partner would lose her sexual momentum when I say;

"Oh excuse me for 5 minutes whilst I use my pump".

You know that situation, where you and your partner have this sexual energy accelerating you both down the highway of passion, and Pedro is lagging behind.

This would result in me focusing on Pedro's performance and not on the needs of my partner. And I would be internally screaming, "Come on Pedro, catch up".

The more I thought about it, the more he softened up, which resulted in me getting frustrated, and just like that, the moment was gone!

Gone. Leaving both parties unsatisfied and me very angry with my useless appendage.

So with a little bit of exploration, a willing partner and the use of a vibrator and a pump, the results were amazing.

• No anxiety 😱

• No anger 😡

• No disappointment 😀

How did I do it, you ask.

Without going into too much detail, or being too prescriptive, this is what I did.

Before I get on board the passion train, I have my tool bag close by. You know the stuff you need; pump, lube, cock ring, bullet vibrator, etc.

Being the sensual passionate lover that I am, and recognising the obvious shortcomings of Pedro, there is a lot of foreplay, oral play, caresses, and more, before I call upon Pedro to do his thing.

So it is at this point, I dread.

I have established the perfect sensual moment, and I have to say; "excuse me while I pump" and potentially lose the momentum.

Now, before I pull out the pump, I pull out the bullet vibrator and surreptitiously play with my partner, allowing her to take the vibe and caress herself.

Now, while she is pleasantly distracted from my physics project engaging the laws of blood flow and negative pressures, I can apply my pump and inflate Pedro to the desired size.

Pedro immediately jumps to attention because there is not only the physical pumping actions, but also the visual and audible stimulus of my partner enjoying herself.

Off comes the pump , on goes the cock ring (for extra blood retention), on goes a condom, apply more lube, and Voila!

Pedro is ready to perform!!

At this point, my partner is at such a point of heightened excitement, no momentum is lost, in fact it is the opposite. The hunger for penetration is unmistakable!

The results, Outstanding!!

So that is my tip on using a penis pump and not losing the moment. I hope it works for you.

Finally, just a few things that I have learnt on my rehab journey are;

• Every man's rehab and recovery is different. I am 18 months post op and I still need my Vacurect.

• My fears of using a pump midway through a session of passion were real, but so was the solution.

• My partners do not find my pumping a distraction if they are otherwise occupied.

• And vibrator choice. Use a bullet vibrator for clitoral stimulation, not an 8" dildo. Pedro can't compete with that.

Enjoy and share your stories, tips and helpful hints, so as to help other men and their partners to find their New Normal.